my500words : Day 20 : Searching not finding

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Searching not Finding

I’ve always believed beyond sickness and good health.

As a teenager, I pondered over different philosophies, as most teenagers do I suppose.

What struck me then, and still sticks in my mind today, is that if you can get ill and then get better, why can’t the pendulum swing  the other way? It seems reasonable to me, to expect that we can become better than just well.

Having such a belief, however, left me exposed to all the quacks and sects in the world over the years.

Every time someone promised me a better me, I felt obliged to at least listen and that was dangerous.

It does get easier over time, however. Over the years I’ve learnt to navigate around and even through these minefields.

Lately, over the past ten years or so, I find more peace from inwardly looking than from outwardly searching. I also feel that the more I’ve searched, the farther from myself I’ve drifted.

Lao Tzu said ,that at the centre of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want.

He also said that when you let go of what you are, you become what you might be.

The principal danger of any sect, in my mind, is that they promote us and them. If you aren’t part of the sect you are them, a danger, a threat or to be ignored.

Even outside of religion and beliefs, we often use the same mechanisms.

There are many examples. Our team is better than their team. Our sexuality is better than their sexuality. The colour of our skin makes us who we are. The old don’t understand youth. Women are different to men. I’m sure you can think of many other examples.

Us and them.

I firmly believe, that while each person is unique, we all belong to the same family. We should resist all attempts to alienate us from others.

Also,  if we find ourselves caring so much what other people think, we will always be their prisoner and our own thoughts will become meaningless  over time.

We should, therefore, dig deep into ourselves in order to express our own ideas and let our feelings blossom.

Another problem that I see today is that we seem to be continually looking for excitement.

How many times have I heard, “I’m very excited to tell you,” or “I’m so excited to be here.”

Don’t you think that we might be confusing excitement with happiness?

Thich Nhat Hanh, a Vietnamese Buddhist Monk, said, “Many people think excitement is happiness…. But when you are excited you are not peaceful. True happiness is based on peace.”

So sometimes I try to slow down, stop and just breathe, because life is not a race. I don’t think you can ‘find’ happiness elsewhere than in the present moment, which is the only place where you truly have total control.

The past can fill you with regrets, the future might make you anxious but the now is yours to own.

To conclude, Thich Nhat Hanh also said, “The seed of suffering in you may be strong, but don’t wait until you have no more suffering before allowing yourself to be happy.”

The time is always now. If we continually wait for each and every condition to be met before we do what intend to do, or feel what we want to feel, we will probably never do it or feel it.

So stop, breathe, feel the earth beneath your feet, and grab some happiness.

I’ve always believed beyond sickness and good health.

As a teenager, I pondered over different philosophies, as most teenagers do I suppose.

What struck me then, and still sticks in my mind today, is that if you can get ill and then get better, why can’t the pendulum swing  the other way? It seems reasonable to me, to expect that we can become better than just well.

Having such a belief, however, left me exposed to all the quacks and sects in the world over the years.

Every time someone promised me a better me, I felt obliged to at least listen and that was dangerous.

It does get easier over time, however. Over the years I’ve learnt to navigate around and even through these minefields.

Lately, over the past ten years or so, I find more peace from inwardly looking than from outwardly searching. I also feel that the more I’ve searched, the farther from myself I’ve drifted.

Lao Tzu said ,that at the centre of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want.

He also said that when you let go of what you are, you become what you might be.

The principal danger of any sect, in my mind, is that they promote us and them. If you aren’t part of the sect you are them, a danger, a threat or to be ignored.

Even outside of religion and beliefs, we often use the same mechanisms.

There are many examples. Our team is better than their team. Our sexuality is better than their sexuality. The colour of our skin makes us who we are. The old don’t understand youth. Women are different to men. I’m sure you can think of many other examples.

Us and them.

I firmly believe, that while each person is unique, we all belong to the same family. We should resist all attempts to alienate us from others.

Also,  if we find ourselves caring so much what other people think, we will always be their prisoner and our own thoughts will become meaningless  over time.

We should, therefore, dig deep into ourselves in order to express our own ideas and let our feelings blossom.

Another problem that I see today is that we seem to be continually looking for excitement.

How many times have I heard, “I’m very excited to tell you,” or “I’m so excited to be here.”

Don’t you think that we might be confusing excitement with happiness?

Thich Nhat Hanh, a Vietnamese Buddhist Monk, said, “Many people think excitement is happiness…. But when you are excited you are not peaceful. True happiness is based on peace.”

So sometimes I try to slow down, stop and just breathe, because life is not a race. I don’t think you can ‘find’ happiness elsewhere than in the present moment, which is the only place where you truly have total control.

The past can fill you with regrets, the future might make you anxious but the now is yours to own.

To conclude, Thich Nhat Hanh also said, “The seed of suffering in you may be strong, but don’t wait until you have no more suffering before allowing yourself to be happy.”

The time is always now. If we continually wait for each and every condition to be met before we do what intend to do, or feel what we want to feel, we will probably never do it or feel it.

So stop, breathe, feel the earth beneath your feet, and grab some happiness.

Now.

(691 words)

Today’s my500words challenge was to write about Hope.

I hope some of my words strike a chord with your own beliefs and thoughts.

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